Friday, February 27, 2009

Good Advice

I get these emails from "Love and Logic Institute, Inc." every week or so. This company offers advice on parenting in a more loving and, well, logical way.
Anyway, I really enjoyed this one. It's actually pretty funny. I can't wait to do it with Jace, Lance, and even Jared. (Not to pick on Jared, he's gotten a lot better after he gets home now that he's in his OB/Gyn rotation and does tons of surgeries that are really quite fascinating and he loves to share. I think this might be the one he decides on.)

Anyway, the email was like this:


Dear Jenny,

When you get home from a long day at work, do you want to be pummeled with questions about your day? Most of us don't and our kids don't either. Here, Jim Fay shares a different technique you can use when you get home. Try it tonight!

Getting Kids to Talk About Their Day Conversation between a parent and child:

"Hi, Jamie. How was your day?"
"Okay."
"How was school?"
"Fine."
"What did you do today at school?"
"Nothing."
"Well, you must have done something."
"Just regular stuff."
"How was your lunch?"
"I don't know. Okay, I guess."

Does this sound familiar? Would you like your kids to be just a little more talkative?

Experiment with this:

Dr. Charles Fay calls this the "30 Minute Rule." It's based upon the fact that kids watch our every move, copying us in their subconscious drive to learn how to be big.

For the next 2 months, avoid the temptations to ask questions of your kids during the first 30 minutes after they come home. Instead, talk with excitement or enthusiasm about your own day instead.

Examples:
"It's good to see you. Guess what I got to do today… And not only that, I learned…and I heard…and I couldn't wait to tell you about it. I hope you had a great day."

One of these days you'll get a surprise; it will sound like, "But Mom. I've got to tell you what happened today." By the way, this works great with spouses.

Thanks for reading,
Jim Fay

3 comments:

  1. good idea! i can never get Maggie to tell me anything!

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  2. Sounds like a great idea. I want to get on that email list. I could use any and all parenting tips.

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